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How to Set and Reach Your Goals in 2019
For some people, the new year is the start of a new school year in August or September. For some, it is January 1. Whichever is true for you, here are some tips that may help you in planning your personal and work life for this year. At Walk and Talk, we call them the...
A Reminder of the True Meaning of Christmas
Have you ever been in a car accident and experienced everything in slow motion? So many thoughts and emotions flood your mind simultaneously that you cannot process it all in the moment. Time seems to stand still. I think Mary must have responded this way when an...
Trust Minute with Alan Heller – Idolatry of Applause
Did you know that you might be facing a battle with idolatry and not even know it? At first, idols (those things in our life that we put ahead of God) appear harmless and sometimes even beneficial. Read this week’s blog to learn more about these sly idols and how to avoid them
Do You Have Idols in Your Life?
What are Idols? Websters Dictionary says an idol is: “an object of extreme devotion; a representation or symbol of an object of worship broadly: a false god”. Do we control Idolatry or does it control us? We all want to be significant and liked by others. When we are...
Trust Minute with Alan Heller – Forgive, Release, Let Go
In this week’s Trust Minute, we discuss how to forgive, release and let go of life’s pains.
Why is Forgiveness Important?
Forgiveness and Release Do you have something or someone in your past that you have been unable to forgive? Have you said at one point in your life, “I will never be like… or I am never going to let someone in my life like that again.” As we talked about in the trust...
How to Cope with Holiday Stress
How can you spend time with relatives and not be let down? It’s inevitable that gathering groups of different people in the same room will cause some sort of stress, if not utter chaos. Differences in family or personal values, politics, and even sports teams can turn a beautiful family reunion upside-down in a hurry.
Trust Minute with Alan Heller – Vows, Judgements, and Generalizations
No one likes to get hurt, but sometimes, it happens. When our trust is broken or someone hurts us, we might make judgments that push others away. Read this week’s article on how to make the right vows, judgments, and generalizations in life to help resolve these issues.
Judgments, Vows, and Generalizations, Oh My!
“Watch your thoughts, they become words ... watch your words, they become actions ... watch your actions, they become habits ... watch your habits, they become character ... watch your character, it becomes your destiny!” The by which we make sense of our world and...
Trust Minute with Alan Heller – Pain is Inevitable but Misery is Optional
Do you know we can choose misery or joy? Sometimes life brings us down, but it’s up to us how we deal with it. To learn more, watch this week’s Trust Minute with Alan Heller.
Pain is Inevitable but Misery is Optional
Jesus said in John 16:33: In the world, you will have tribulation but be of good cheer I have overcome the world. We can’t choose the pain we go through, but we can choose the attitude we have as we go through our pain. We can whine and be miserable and tell everyone...
Trust Minute with Alan Heller – Vertical & Horizontal Trust
Many times in life, we are hurt by a person or something happens that causes us to feel threatened, rejected or shamed. In these cases, our trust is broken. Having vertical trust (trust in God) allows us to have an unbreakable trust. To learn more, watch this week’s Trust Minute with Alan Heller.
Vertical and Horizontal Trust
What are your dreams? What are your desires? What exploits would you like to accomplish for the kingdom of God? What type of person do you desire to become? Are you satisfied with the process through which God is bringing you, or do you find yourself caught in...
Trust Minute with Alan Heller – Why Trust is Essential
Many times in life, we are hurt by a person or something happens that causes us to feel threatened, rejected or shamed. In these cases, our trust is broken. How do we cope and what can we do to restore this trust? Watch this week’s Trust Minute with Alan Heller.
Tips for Communicating with your Spouse
The other day, Pauly and I had to use all the communication skills we had just taught. She said sometimes she talks or asks questions just to reach out or get close to me. In our workshops, we call this “small talk” or the “conversive” style. I think she’s rehashing...
Marriage Minute with Alan Heller – Expectations Take a Break
CONTRACTING FOR TIME When things become overheated in a discussion it's helpful to take a break. We call this contracting for time. We make an appointment just like you would for a doctor or dentist. But rather an appointment with your doctor, this appointment is with...
3 Ways to Help People
This past week I was meeting with a couple, who needed someone to meet with them to encourage, listen and just be there for them. I called the pastor, and I spoke with his voice mail. I called another pastor from the same church, he was going off on a missions trip,...
Marriage Minute with Alan Heller – Closing the Loop
What exactly does it mean to "close the loop"? In this week's Marriage Minute, we explore the idea of actively listening and communicating with one another. There are a few key factors to consider when looking to communicate better with your spouse:...
The Physical Area of Life
The 7 Areas of Life We are now going to talk about the Physical area of life. This is just one of The Seven Areas of Life we have been looking at. It is important to get our cues from the word of God as well as those who are experts in this area. As we discussed...
Marriage Minute with Alan Heller – Psychological Area
This segment is focused on how to grow ourselves in the psychological and intellectual area. There are many ways to do this on a personal and relationship level, like reading a new book to a trip to the theater.