In this week’s Trust Minute, we discuss how to forgive, release and let go of life’s pains.
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Why is Forgiveness Important?
Forgiveness and Release Do you have something or someone in your past that you have been unable to forgive? Have you said at one point in your life, “I will never be like… or I am never going to let someone in my life like that again.” As we talked about in the trust...
How to Cope with Holiday Stress
How can you spend time with relatives and not be let down? It’s inevitable that gathering groups of different people in the same room will cause some sort of stress, if not utter chaos. Differences in family or personal values, politics, and even sports teams can turn a beautiful family reunion upside-down in a hurry.
Trust Minute with Alan Heller – Vows, Judgements, and Generalizations
No one likes to get hurt, but sometimes, it happens. When our trust is broken or someone hurts us, we might make judgments that push others away. Read this week’s article on how to make the right vows, judgments, and generalizations in life to help resolve these issues.
Judgments, Vows, and Generalizations, Oh My!
“Watch your thoughts, they become words ... watch your words, they become actions ... watch your actions, they become habits ... watch your habits, they become character ... watch your character, it becomes your destiny!” The by which we make sense of our world and...
Trust Minute with Alan Heller – Pain is Inevitable but Misery is Optional
Do you know we can choose misery or joy? Sometimes life brings us down, but it’s up to us how we deal with it. To learn more, watch this week’s Trust Minute with Alan Heller.
Pain is Inevitable but Misery is Optional
Jesus said in John 16:33: In the world, you will have tribulation but be of good cheer I have overcome the world. We can’t choose the pain we go through, but we can choose the attitude we have as we go through our pain. We can whine and be miserable and tell everyone...
Trust Minute with Alan Heller – Vertical & Horizontal Trust
Many times in life, we are hurt by a person or something happens that causes us to feel threatened, rejected or shamed. In these cases, our trust is broken. Having vertical trust (trust in God) allows us to have an unbreakable trust. To learn more, watch this week’s Trust Minute with Alan Heller.
Vertical and Horizontal Trust
What are your dreams? What are your desires? What exploits would you like to accomplish for the kingdom of God? What type of person do you desire to become? Are you satisfied with the process through which God is bringing you, or do you find yourself caught in...
Trust Minute with Alan Heller – Why Trust is Essential
Many times in life, we are hurt by a person or something happens that causes us to feel threatened, rejected or shamed. In these cases, our trust is broken. How do we cope and what can we do to restore this trust? Watch this week’s Trust Minute with Alan Heller.
Tips for Communicating with your Spouse
The other day, Pauly and I had to use all the communication skills we had just taught. She said sometimes she talks or asks questions just to reach out or get close to me. In our workshops, we call this “small talk” or the “conversive” style. I think she’s rehashing...
Marriage Minute with Alan Heller – Expectations Take a Break
CONTRACTING FOR TIME When things become overheated in a discussion it's helpful to take a break. We call this contracting for time. We make an appointment just like you would for a doctor or dentist. But rather an appointment with your doctor, this appointment is with...
3 Ways to Help People
This past week I was meeting with a couple, who needed someone to meet with them to encourage, listen and just be there for them. I called the pastor, and I spoke with his voice mail. I called another pastor from the same church, he was going off on a missions trip,...
Marriage Minute with Alan Heller – Closing the Loop
What exactly does it mean to "close the loop"? In this week's Marriage Minute, we explore the idea of actively listening and communicating with one another. There are a few key factors to consider when looking to communicate better with your spouse:...
The Physical Area of Life
The 7 Areas of Life We are now going to talk about the Physical area of life. This is just one of The Seven Areas of Life we have been looking at. It is important to get our cues from the word of God as well as those who are experts in this area. As we discussed...
Marriage Minute with Alan Heller – Psychological Area
This segment is focused on how to grow ourselves in the psychological and intellectual area. There are many ways to do this on a personal and relationship level, like reading a new book to a trip to the theater.
Marriage Minute with Alan Heller – Writing Smart Goals
It is so important to write down your goals because it is so easy to forget what you said you were going to do. Personal goals seem to be harder in comparison to work goals, which are tied to money, time and demands of a job, which provide built-in accountability. Review each area and write down your goals in each.
Marriage Minute with Alan Heller – Refresh your Marriage
Recreation, Romance, and Renewal. Time to play, time to pray about goals, and focus your lives individually and together. Couples should make time to have a romantic candlelight dinner and some fireworks in the bedroom without kids or chores. Over years of Christian couples and life coaching, we have found that a Triple R Weekend will refresh your marriage.
What Does it Mean to be a Good Father?
What does it mean to be a good father? One of Billy Graham’s regrets. How do we deal with our regrets?
Marriage Minute with Alan Heller – Financial Harmony
“Financial” refers to the source of provision for the needs of your family. This section includes discussion around your income, learning to be content with what you have, learning how to be abased and to abound, stewardship, budget planning to stay debt-free, a giving plan with which the couple agrees, investing, finding financial harmony within your family, and emergency financial planning.
Marriage Minute with Alan Heller – Social Balance
This segment highlights the social balance in ministry and family relationships. This includes: keeping relationships in proper priority, mutual accountability, being involved in a local body, being involved in people’s lives, using our spiritual gifts, reaching out to non-Christians, humor and the ability to have fun and involvement in your community.