One of the biggest hurdles in marriage is the expectation of your spouse to fulfill all of your needs. In this week’s podcast, we talk about how to maintain reasonable expectations for our partner.
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In this week's podcast, Alan and Pauly Heller discuss the powerful meaning behind vows in marriage. What exactly are you committing to?
The Key Of Commitment
In this week's episode, Alan and Pauly Heller talk about the key component of any relationship - commitment. It's important not to stretch yourself too thin and make sure you commit adequate time to your spouse, especially in times of need.
The Friendship Room
Do you and your spouse make time for each other at home? It's important to work on your friendship in marriage so you can develop a cozy "friendship" room in your house.
Comradeship
In this week's episode, Alan and Pauly discuss friendship, or "comradeship." In marriage, it's important to share the bedroom and the boardroom. Learn more about how to improve the quality of your friendship in your relationship.
Introduction to Our Marital Mystery Tour
In this episode, Alan and Pauly Heller welcome you to join them in their journey through the Marital Mystery Tour. In the coming weeks, they will guide you through the rich adventures that marriage brings. Learn more about how the Marital Mystery Tour originated and...
Unmet Expectations in Relationships
In this week's podcast, we explore what to do when you have unrealistic expectations. One of the foundational problems we see frequently in marriage counseling, is unmet expectations. Its natural to have some healthy expectations of your partner. But often problems...
Life Shaping Events and Lingering Influences
On today's podcast, we are going to learn three things. Number one, how our life-shaping events have lingering influences. Number two, human and eternal perspectives on the trials of trust. Number three ways to pray about trust.
The Enemies of Our Trust
This week, we are going to learn two things. Number one, the enemies of our trust and number two, the anti-trust strategy these enemies use against us.
Dealing With Our Judgments and Generalizations
This week, we are going to discuss how the judgments we make about ourselves, the generalizations we make about others, and the vows we make in life, have an emotional and spiritual impact on us. Learn how to deal with these three topics from a biblical perspective.
Our Identity
This week we dive deep into the issue of identity. We will tackle these ideas: Running away from your identity, is a race you'll never win. God wants you to be yourself. What truly matters about identity?
More Lessons From Our Dragon Eggs
This week, we will dive deep into why we fear exposure of our secrets. What truly happens when we ask for help? Most of us would be really surprised. Listen to this week’s podcast to learn how to apply these principles of trust to your life
Why We Love Our Secrets
In this episode, we are going to discuss secrets. Why do we love secrets? Secrets give us a false pleasure that gives us a sense of allusion or control.
The Definition of Trust
In our book Learning How to Trust we say, “if we are to make any progress toward reclaiming trust in our lives, we must all be working with the same definition of “trust.” Words are critical to our thinking. Words define, characterize, and become a substitute for the...
Identifying Your Dragon Eggs
How do we become aware of our blind spots? Sometimes our habits end up controlling us. In our book, Learning How to Trust, we call these blindspots “dragon eggs.” At first, they might not seem harmful, but because we are blind to the negative effects, they end up...
Out of Control Dragon Eggs
Many of us don’t take the time to find out the root of our problems - or our "dragon eggs" as we call them in our book Learning To Trust. These are attitudes and actions that we think we can control but they really end up controlling us.
Rising to the Level of Our Trust
Last week, Alan Heller, Pauly Heller, and Ed Delph, the authors of Learning How to Trust, talked about how our decision revealed certain things about us. They also touched on a process of how to trust. This week, we continue that discussion by focusing on three...
Trust Minute with Alan Heller: Identifying Our Bad Habits
In this week’s Trust Minute, we discuss how to become free from our bad habits.
Why Are Bad Habits Hard to Break?
Why Are Habits Hard to Break? Many times, it takes a crisis to change our negative habits. We tend to reject the law that protects us. This is the law of sin and death. Our human flesh causes us to sin and not trust the God that wants to protect us from ourselves. The...
Trust Minute with Alan Heller: What is the Definition of trust?
In this week’s Trust Minute, we discuss how our perspective of trust is often clouded by unreconciled relationships.
The Definition of Trust
We learn most of our words from our family & culture but these definitions may be biased. Read more to find the true definition of trust!