It is so important to write down your goals because it is so easy to forget what you said you were going to do. Personal goals seem to be harder in comparison to work goals, which are tied to money, time and demands of a job, which provide built-in accountability. Review each area and write down your goals in each.
Recreation, Romance, and Renewal. Time to play, time to pray about goals, and focus your lives individually and together. Couples should make time to have a romantic candlelight dinner and some fireworks in the bedroom without kids or chores. Over years of Christian couples and life coaching, we have found that a Triple R Weekend will refresh your marriage.
What does it mean to be a good father? One of Billy Graham’s regrets. How do we deal with our regrets?
“Financial” refers to the source of provision for the needs of your family. This section includes discussion around your income, learning to be content with what you have, learning how to be abased and to abound, stewardship, budget planning to stay debt-free, a giving plan with which the couple agrees, investing, finding financial harmony within your family, and emergency financial planning.
This segment highlights the social balance in ministry and family relationships. This includes: keeping relationships in proper priority, mutual accountability, being involved in a local body, being involved in people’s lives, using our spiritual gifts, reaching out to non-Christians, humor and the ability to have fun and involvement in your community.
This segment is focused on the wholesome acceptance of the way God made you: on an adequate, well-balanced diet, free from gluttony, sexual purity, proper personal hygiene, proper exercise (especially emphasizing cardiovascular fitness to avoid unnecessary risk of heart attack), adequate sleep, freedom from laziness and freedom from drunkenness.
Write down all 7 segments and your corresponding goals. Then, pick your top two goals to accomplish this year. No need to feel overwhelmed by all seven areas. Once you accomplish your top two goals, try two more.
Over years of Christian couples counseling, we have found it helpful to view life in segments and make goals in each segment that matches Christian biblical principles. You can keep a balanced life if you tend to the garden of each of these 7 areas. I will explain each one in more detail as the counseling videos progress.
Today we talk about the Purpose and Mission of Christian couples counseling. To summarize, these are the following: 1. To provide resources for couples to have thriving healthy marriages that reflect the relationship between Christ and His church. 2. To provide...
Here is a communication skill we teach during our workshops and Phoenix couples counseling therapies. Read how to “Close the Loop” and to actively listen to one another.
Here are three ways that will help you be ready to minister to people who need help with marriage counseling or any other life crises.
Understanding each other is the secret to a happy marriage. Family counseling always involves listening to and hearing what the other person’s needs are. Here is a real life tip.
These past few months I have seen a few funerals. It makes you think how you would live your life. Here are some great ideas from Erma Bombeck about how to live life well... IF I HAD MY LIFE TO LIVE OVER - by Erma Bombeck (written after she found out she was dying...
How Can Dealing with Unmet Expectations Help in Marriage Counseling? One of the foundational problems we see frequently in marriage counseling, is unmet expectations. Its natural to have some healthy expectations of your partner. But often problems arise when we...
Whenever a TV show or movie dealt with marriage infidelity as the subject matter, Patty’s anger would burst forth anew at Fred.
1. GET AWAY ! 2. When traveling on a long trip, wrap inexpensive gifts to give small children to keep them occupied along the way. 3. Plan together as a family—it will help with the expectations 4. Try to do things that are fun for each family member. 5. Leave cell...
The Lord, the God of their fathers, sent persistently to them by his messengers, because he had compassion on his people and on his dwelling place.
Alan and Pauly Heller are founders of Walk & Talk Ministries. They write and speak on marriage and marriage counseling around the country.
Do you know someone ensnared and enslaved by sexual addiction? Steve and Marla Wagner are the resources you need. Pauly and I have known Steve and Marla Wagner since 1983 when I did their premarital counseling.
This equation encircles our CommuniStar diagram like a wedding band. It reminds us that possessing communication skills alone doth not a successful relationship make. Repeating what your partner has said may be a loving demonstration of your desire to understand his...
By Alan and Pauly Heller Walk & Talk Ministries Jerry, a sales representative for a textile firm, makes frequent calls on the furniture design studio where Mary works. He finds her attractive, and, hoping that the feeling is mutual, asks her to lunch. She says...